Monday, January 30, 2006

The Heart of the Matter

Hey everyone! A beautiful weekend in Dallas after the rain was over. Patti and I attended church Sunday at Prestonwood Baptist again and then went to son Mike's in Fort Worth and enjoyed steaks with him, favorite daughter-in-law Morgan and favorite grandson Aidan. I also had the privilege of briefly being in West Monroe to take care of personal business on Friday and Saturday and got to see daughter Abbey, son-in-law Nick (He can't be my favorite cause we have two son-in-laws!) and favorite granddaughter Cadence. Four kids and both grandkids in one weekend...awesome!!!

Most of you remember that Patti was diagnosed with a hole in her heart called a Patent-Foramen-Ovale. Just to refresh, 100% of us are born with it, 60% close up right after birth, 20% close up by age 18 and the other 20% walk around with it for the rest of their lives and don't know they have it until something like this happens. The hole is between the two upper chambers of the heart and the speculation is that a clot or emboli gets into the right chamber, passes through to the left which pumps to the brain and, whammo, you have a stroke.

The closure is fairly simple involving a catheter into the leg and the insertion of a closure device in the heart. The procedure takes about 1 and 1/2 hours including recovery.

Patti will be transferred to a Dallas hospital on Thursday evening and the surgery will be performed early Friday morning. She will stay at the hospital for observation Friday night and check out on Saturday morning. As you know, the Super Bowl is Sunday and we wouldn't want her to miss that!!

This is a preventative measure as we still don't know what caused the stroke. It should be simple and risk free. The doctor performing the operation is very experienced and highly recommended. It is a big step towards getting her off of blood thinners and greatly reducing future stroke risk.

Prayer requests:

1. Pray for Holy Spirit guidance for the doctor and a normal procedure.
2. Pray for rapid and regular recovery for Patti so she can be back in therapy Monday morning.
3. Pray for peace for family members. We're all a little hospital shy at this point.

Praise:

Brother Tom is being discharged from the hospital today. His kidneys are up over 50% so he has been taken off of dialysis! He will have some diminished lung capacity and will be on blood thinners to protect against lung clots, but otherwise will be back to a "close to normal" life. God was gracious to him to pull him through what was a very difficult situation. Thank you for your prayers for him and his continued recovery and strengthening.

Forever in Him,

Mike

Wednesday, January 25, 2006

A Meeting of the Minds - A Long Report

Today Patti and I attended our first patient conference at CNS since Patti's arrival. The objective of the conference is to review Patti's assessments and progress. In the process I want to say that there is great glory to be received by God in this report.

The overall consensus of the CNS Team including Physical Therapy, Occupational Therapy, Speech Therapy, Counseling and Residential Evaluation is that Patti is making "vast" progress.

In almost all of her activities at the apartment she requires minimal to no assistance. This evaluation includes all sorts of things such as motivation to do things, initiating activities without being asked, cooking, grocery shopping, sleeping, laundry, toileting, bathing, etc.

Physical therapy presented a lot of data on Patti's torso and leg function indicating great progress in strength, balance, flexibility and range of motion. Her desire to work and improve was noted as significant. They will be working with her over the next couple of weeks to move her from the wheelchair at the residence and rehab center on to a walker or poles. She will still stay in a wheelchair in public for safety. Again, significant progress.

Occupational therapy had much the same report. Many of the things she is able to do in terms of motor skill re-development, motion, accuracy, flexibility and control of her arm and hand all showed huge improvement in the last few weeks. They are currently working with Charlotte to strengthen wrist movement and isolate muscle movements to specific groups. Patti can now grip with Charlote when she is on the walker, but must really concentrate to maintain that grip. They were thrilled with all of her development.

Speech is the area she has the farthest to go, but even here the progress has been substantial. She will have several months of work here as she begins to put back together her reading, comprehension, math skills as well as speaking. You don't realize how complicated and extensive all these things really are until you have to start re-learning things you first learned years ago.

Counseling noted her wonderful attitude, desire to improve and strong sense of self-worth as improvement contributors as well as her strong faith in God and strong family and friend support. There was nothing in her profile that was out of the ordinary for someone in her position other than her great mental state.

Here is what's important: It is obvious to me, and I hope to you, that God continues to have His hand in Patti's amazing recovery! Praise His Name!! Patti was described today as the "star" at CNS because she has covered so much ground in so short a time. They are thrilled with her progress. Here are some factors and circumstances that should be remembered as we think about this:

1. Patti is only a little over 2 and 1/2 months removed from a "major" stroke affecting the entire left hemisphere of her brain and virtually paralyzing her entire right side and robbing her of most of her speech and short-term memory.
2. When she transferred to Dallas after two weeks in the hospital in Monroe, her therapy time there was limited by the Thanksgiving holidays, a few days of illness from a head cold, and her overall lack of strength and stamina.
3. When she transferred to CNS, she lost a lot of time due to the 4-day Christmas and 3-day New Year's holidays.
4. She had a significant interruption when she had to be hospitalized for dehydration and low blood pressure early in January.

It seems sometimes that many things were working against her improvement, but they have all been overcome and Patti's recovery goes against all normal expectations for this type of situation.

That can only be God.

Now it's true that Patti hasn't experienced a miraculous, get-up-and-walk type of miracle. But she has experienced a life changing event that God is using to develop new character qualities in Patti, myself and even our whole family. She has experienced the value of a daily walk of faith and dependence on God for even the smallest of things. Yes not all of His miracles are instant explosions of eternity in the mortal realm! In Patti's case it has been a day-by-day, on-going manifestation of the grace and power of God as He meets her needs, answers the prayers of His children and glorifies Himself through all He does through Patti.

I mention all of these things for two reasons:

1. If you have been a part of this through prayer, friendship and support including cards, letters, phone calls and e-mails, you have played a direct part in Patti's recovery and God is daily answering your prayers and ministering to Patti through you! Thank you!!!!! And be encouraged! He will answer you for all of your needs!

2. If you are visiting this web site just to find out what's going on, at the recommendation of a friend, or just by accident and you have ever wondered if God still answers prayers or even if there is a God, then this story is for you! God is interested in you and showing you how He can change your life and overcome even the most disastrous of events or dire situations by surrounding you with His love, his children and providing you with eternal life through Jesus Christ. This is what he has done and is doing with Patti and I. If you want to know more about how to allow Him to do that, click on the link to E-mail Mike and contact me. I will be glad to get back to you with more information.

Patti still has a long way to go, but the way is shorter with God and has a rich meaning and purpose associated with it for her good and the good of others.

Love in Christ,

Mike

Tuesday, January 24, 2006

Taking a Stand!

Yesterday when I got to the apartment to spend time with Patti things were a little different. She was in the kitchen cooking dinner (yes she can can still cook!) but was standing up at the counter moving things around and getting things out of the cabinets above the stove! I asked her what was going on and she told me the therapists have encouraged her to position her wheelchair by the cabinets, lock the wheels and stand up to do things. This will begin to make standing more of the normal status rather than sitting. Another small development, but one with a much greater and long lasting purpose.

So I told her if she could do that then she could just as easily roll across the room, lock the wheels and stand up and give me a hug. So she did.

Forever in Him,

Mike

Friday, January 20, 2006

It's Good to be Back!!

I confess I have not been online the last couple of days other than verrrry briefly, but with good reason. After being gone so long I have enjoyed getting back to "normal."

This week Patti got her hair highlighted, cut and styled on Thursday. It looks great and I'll publish a picture in the next couple of days. Afterwards, we went to dinner and spent some time at the apartment just visiting and catching up.

Friday I came over to the rehab center and had lunch with Patti and then spent about 30 minutes in her physical therapy session before I had to leave to tend to business. Here is what I can tell you about her "floor exercises." She is able to move herself down and on to a large mat from the wheelchair with little or no assistance. The therapist straps Charlotte to a styrofoam board to keep her spread out and the palm flat. Patti then does several exercises on all fours that stretches muscles and forces the right arm and leg to support her. She can also walk around on her knees frontwards, backwards and shuffling side-to-side. All of these are great coordination and response building exercises.

Also, I was told later that about five minutes until two o'clock, when the session was about to end, that everyone started preparing to put up equipment and get ready to go to the 2:00 PM session. Everybody, that is, except Patti. She told the therapist "nothing doing! I've still got five minutes so give me something else to do!!" She certainly intends to get Blue Cross's money's worth!! And you've got to love the attitude.

Saturday was shopping day primarily for new sneakers. It was great getting out on a pretty day and spending time together with no time pressures. Patti's speech continues to come along very well, but she is still frustrated at the pace. She is wanting to talk normally and just can't quite get there yet. But she is thinking about and working to get out very long complete sentences. We spend time in the car reviewing names, places and other information to help work on her speaking and mental associations. She's pretty much working on stuff one way or another about 14 hours a day.

Sunday has been a really great day! FIRST SUNDAY CHURCH SERVICE SINCE THE STROKE TODAY!!! I spent the night at the apartment last night and we got up early enough to enjoy breakfast, on a very rainy and cold day, and then drove out to Prestonwood Baptist for church at 11 AM. Today was a wonderful day to be there because their music department just completed a new album and they presented it this morning. So we got to enjoy a service 100% oriented to worship and praise and it was PERFECT for Patti! She sang, hummed and cried with enjoyment through the whole thing! We got to go to lunch afterwards with the family I'm staying with now, John and Carol Ferguson and another family as well. It was a really precious and enjoyable time!

Afterwards we took it easy at the apartment sleeping through football and working on her homework and chores.

As I said, we worked hard at getting back to normal this weekend! I mentioned the special splint for her right hand that she will get to use either at the end of this upcoming week or the first of the following week. If you would like to see what it looks like highlight and copy the link below and paste it into the address line of your browser. It may take you there if you just click on it, but I don't know for sure.

http://www.saebo.com/seaboflex.html

Prayer requests:

1. Continue to pray for Patti's patience, particularly with her speech. This is a time when she needs to keep pressing forward without discouragement.
2. We are trying to get her heart procedure scheduled as soon as possible. The nursing staff at CNS is trying to get the doctor to move her ahead of other patients. We would like the surgery as soon as we can get it and we would like for the arrangements and insurance coverage to be seamless!

Thank you for taking the time to read Patti's blog! Thank you for your prayers, thoughts and support! We are still getting cards and e-mails and Patti dearly loves to hear from all!

We love you in Christ!!

Forever in Him,

Mike

Wednesday, January 18, 2006

Question and Answer

Q: Mike, where are you now?
A: I just got back to Dallas this afternoon on a 3:45 flight.

Q: How's your brother in Florida doing?
A: He's feeling better, but he's not out of the woods yet. His surgery on Monday was successful in relieving pressure on his lungs and allowing him to breathe easier. He is still on dialysis, will have limited lung capacity and we are waiting on lab results from biopsies performed during surgery. We'll know more from the doctors after the lab results come in.

Q: What's the first thing you did today when you got back to Dallas?
A: I got my car and went to see my beloved Patti whom I was desperately missing!!

Q: Were you guys glad to see each other?
A: Oh yeah! It was great to see her and she was happy to see me! She even raised up Charlotte to give me a hug! That's a first!

Q: Anything else different since you left?
A: Well, really, a lot. One thing I noticed is her legs are stronger when she stands up to transfer from one place to another or when she sits down. It's a lot easier for her than it was when I left. Also, tonight she had her contact lenses on. She was enjoying not having to wear her glasses. Also, her face is much less tired looking, especially around the eyes. She just looked serene and peaceful and happy!!

Q: That's great! Anything else?
A: Well, she did her own grocery shopping this week without me along. She checked herself out of her apartment and got on the "bus" with other residents and did the Wal-Mart thing on Tuesday afternoon. I'm really proud of her for doing it and not getting discouraged because I wasn't there! Also, she's really doing a lot of walking with the walking stick in rehab. They are even to the point of bumping into her as she walks to help her re-develop her reflexes and balance. I'm hoping this means she'll be out of her wheelchair in a few weeks!

Q: That would be wonderful! Is she doing anything else new in therapy?
A: Since I haven't been here for the last several days, I haven't seen everything she's doing, but she did start doing "floor exercises" today which, as best I can tell, consist of stretching, exercising and other activities to assist in general recovery. Oh, and also, sometime in the next week or two she will receive her electronic "splint" for Charlotte! She told me that it is really high-tech and will do a lot to speed her motor skills recovery. I'll have to get and pass along a more detailed description of it.

Q: Yeah, that would be great! So how are you doing?
A: I'm tired but happy to be back with Patti. We went out for dinner tonight and had a great visit. I filed her fingernails for her when we got back to the apartment. I'm actually getting pretty good at it. Then we read some Bible verses together, prayed together and then said goodnight. I'm looking forward to getting some work done the rest of this week and then having a relaxing weekend together with Patti. Let me give the glory to God because He is my strength and my joy! I couldn't even begin to make it through this stuff without Him. He is also ministering peace and faith in Patti's heart and that is beautiful to see!

Q: Sounds like everything is OK, then?
A: Yep! Things are fine. We are still rejoicing in the little things each day and trying not to look too far ahead or too hard at the past. We are just blessing God every day!

Forever in Him,

Mike

Saturday, January 14, 2006

Florida Update

Hi everyone! The Everett family is gathered around our stricken brother Tom in Florida. Patti is doing well in Dallas and is blessed to have friends and family around to keep her company while I'm away. This is a very difficult time and we are both lonely for each other.

Please continue to pray for Tom. Monday he will undergo surgery that will be very serious. He has almost complete blockage of one lung and 70% of the other. He has been on dialysis four straight days and, overall, is very weak. The surgery is to try and determine what exactly is going on. They will biopsy the lungs, liver and kidneys. The risks of this surgery will be very high as they will also try to clean out his lungs so he can breathe. There is a very good chance he will be on a ventilator for some period of time after the surgery. Pray also for an opportunity to share the love of Christ and for an open heart.

Forever in Him,

Mike

Thursday, January 12, 2006

Thirty Two Years and Counting

Today, January 12, 2006, Patti and I celebrate our 32nd wedding anniversary. Unfortunately, I'm in Florida with my brother who is ill and my other brother and my Mom and can't be with my beloved. She did receive flowers today, but as we have learned over the last two and 1/2 months, nothing can substitute for being there!

For those of you who have come this far, you know how special it is. For those of you who are still a few years short of the mark, it is worth the wait and worth working through whatever issues you feel stand in the way of getting there. God is able to work out whatever issues and problems that may be contained in a marriage. It only takes two hearts that are willing to trust Him.

In Matthew 15:8, 9 Jesus said,
8 ‘This people honors Me with their lips,
But their heart is far away from Me.
9 ‘But in vain do they worship Me,
Teaching as doctrines the precepts of men.’
"

Many times we come to church or we come into our marriage with all the right words on our lips. We can sound good, but God knows our hearts and, usually, we do too. We need to forget the "precepts of men" and examine what God commands us to do. We need to commit our hearts so that our words and our lives line up together.

Patti, I'm looking forward to the next 32!!

For us, the best is yet to come!!

I love you!

Mike

Wednesday, January 11, 2006

Walk Softly and Carry a Big Stick !!

Here's the latest: Patti, in physical therapy, is now using a pole to walk with instead of a walker. This gives her better centering and balance as she works to strengthen her right leg and improve her walking motion. This is a good step forward and also is easier as she doesn't need Charlotte for support on a walker.

Speaking of Charlotte, Patti is working to generate more movement in her arm to qualify for a special splint that will send electrical impulses through her hand to stimulate even more movement and nerve regeneration. Pray that she gets there quickly as she is anxious to continue moving forward as fast as possible!

Her speech is still frustrating her, but she is working very hard to express complex thoughts and sentences. So she has jumped from just trying to say words to trying to put together normal speech and is working very hard at it.

Tonight we picked up a couple of puzzles for Patti to work and she has started playing Solitare using real cards. This helps her with patterns, numbers and visual acuity.

Prayer requests:
1. I have to travel to Florida with other family members to attend to a seriously ill brother. His name is Tom. Pray for Tom's recovery from pneumonia and kidney failure.
2. Pray for Patti and I as this will be a four day seperation we had not planned for. Strenth and patience.

Forever in Him,

Mike

Monday, January 09, 2006

Contact Options for Patti

I've had several people tell me it is difficult to get on the blog and leave comments, but they want to send a note to Patti. If you prefer not to blog or if you have difficulty blogging, just click the link down to the left to Email Mike. I check e-mail with Patti every evening and read with her all that come in.

Mike

Sunday, January 08, 2006

Reach Out And Touch Someone

Hi everyone! Patti and I are enjoying a relaxing Sunday morning watching NFL playoffs, drinking Starbucks coffee (sometimes known as "fourbucks" coffee), "yakking" on the phone, and doing phonics flash cards.

Yesterday Patti did something completely new and significant. We were in Mardel's, a Christian book and office supply store looking for puzzles. In the middle of a cellphone conversation with our daughter Paige, holding the phone in her good left hand, she spied something she wanted to look at and without thinking about it tried to reach out with Charlotte and grab it! She didn't get very far, but just the natural effort to use the hand that has been disabled is a huge mental step and a sign of impending progress!

Then this morning I got an e-mail from one of our Houston friends, Laurel Taylor, with a great story and idea about how to get Charlotte back in the game and, after yesterday, was soooo appropriate. So I just had to share this with all of Patti's friends:

Mike, Here is my idea..............

One of my favorite memories of the Patti Cakes is this: we were in a jr league provisional class and there were many classes, mostly boring(is mostly a word?) These classes were verrrrry boring, trust me on this. Patti Cakes sat in one of the front rows..........Her contribution to the boring meetings was to extend the boredom........... The little speaker of boringness would, at the end of the meeting, ask if anyone had a question...............invariably........... up would go Patti's hand ..........oh maybe 5 or 6 times............the rest of us would silenty groan.........

So here is the plan..........take the girlfriend to a really boring town meeting..........tie Ralph(my name for her left hand) down and leave Charlotte free..............The boring speaker at the boring town meeting will ask if there are any questions..................Charlotte will shoot up to ask a question that no one in the whole room wants an answer to................It is a great plan don't you think? Maybe this plan should go into the medical archives.......................

Call me when you set this thing up...............I will be there to witness the reactivation of Charlotte..........................regards..........Laurel

We laughed ourselves to tears over this one!

Forever in Him,

Mike

*** Change In Mailing Address ***

If you would like to contact Patti by phone or mail, please e-mail Mike at mikeeverett@jam.rr.com. We are no longer publishing contact information on the blog as a security precaution.
Mike

Thursday, January 05, 2006

First Pictures





Last week Trish Phillips, our close friend and neighbor from West Monroe came over and blessed Patti with a visit. In the process she was able to get the first set of pictures (there are others) that Patti has "blessed" for publication. So here we go! All these were taken in the lobby of the CNS Rehab facility.

Back in the Saddle Again

Patti got back to her apartment today at about 2:oo PM after being discharged. The final medical report was great. First of all, no pneumonia with all the doctors signing off on the diagnosis. Thank you Lord! Secondly, no other complications. We just need to get her water consumption back up to snuff. She will be back in her rehab program tomorrow. (Friday)

Hated to go to the hospital for two days to learn that, but sometimes that's what it takes.

Thank YOU for all of your prayers. One thing I have learned through all of this is that as Believers and as members of the body of Christ, prayer over the little things on behalf of others is just as important as prayer over the big things. Even if someone doesn't specifically know you are praying for them God does and by His Spirit they will know the effect.

In Hebrews 7:25 the Bible says "Therefore He is able also to save forever those who draw near to God through Him, since He always lives to make intercession for them." The Bible also says in John 14:12 "Truly, truly, I say to you, he who believes in Me, the works that I do, he will do also; and greater works than these he will do; because I go to the Father."

Now on an individual level we may not believe we will ever raise the dead or heal the sick, but we sure can pray for one another. We can "make intercession" just as Jesus does for us and literally fulfill His Word when we do because we are doing one of His works and, I believe, one of the "greater" works He intended for us.

So many of you have "made intercession" on Patti's and my behalf and with astounding results. In just the two days at the new hospital this week the staff kept coming around and marveling at her recovery. We had several opportunities to share a little of her story and God's marvelous provision. I know that in several places there God received the glory that He is due for Patti's recovery. Please pray that the ripples from those contacts will touch many.

Forever in Him,

Mike

Wednesday, January 04, 2006

Hospital Update

I apologize for my difficulty in staying current on the blog.

Patti is doing fine and feeling much stronger today. It does not look like she has pneumonia according to the doctor late this afternoon. They will do one final x-ray check before discharge.

Her blood pressure drop was due to dehydration and her dehydration was due to not taking in enough fluids. So we will be making sure we pay attention to that in the future.

She is still receiving antibiotics to knock out some throat and sinus congestion and will continue on those for several days.

She will be discharged tomorrow (Thursday) for sure and will be back at CNS to hit her therapy full speed! By the way, yesterday afternoon and today her speech took a nice step forward. She noticed it and was bragging a little this afternoon. Bragg Patti, bragg!!! I love to hear it!

Thanks to all for your prayers. Our Father is faithful and I am convinced this was a feeble attempt by the enemy of Patti's soul to discourage her. It certainly hasn't worked!

Forever in Him,

Mike

Tuesday, January 03, 2006

Medical Update - Prayer Request

This morning Patti had to be taken to the hospital with low blood pressure. Her pressure has stabilized but there is concern that she has a mild case of pneumonia. The pressure was most likely a reaction to medication and is not considered a long-term risk issue. Two doctors who have examined her can't agree that she has pneumonia so they will treat her as though she does and re-check her tomorrow. My expectation is that she will be released sometime tomorrow or Thursday at the very latest.

Patti is pretty frustrated being back in the hospital and considers it a real setback for her. So please pray that her stay will be short; her pressure and pneumonia problems will yield quickly; and her attitude will stay strong and avoid discouragement.

Mike